The Christmas season is such a joyous time, except when it’s not. We say to one another, “Peace on Earth and Good Tidings to All,” yet for many this time of year is the most hectic and emotionally unsettling. Some families only see each other once a year for good reason—Uncle Ray drinks too much, Cousin Lisa always brings up her divorce, Mary’s children run amuck.
Addressing those concerns is important, but celebrating the season and creating memories of happy times should also be a priority.
During the holidays, challenge yourself to put destructive talk and behaviors aside by trying these helpful tips.
Choose to be joyful, even if the festivities don’t go as planned. Be grateful that your family and friends can get together, even if it is only once a year. Everything will not always be perfect, but when we reflect on the time together, we remember how we felt, not that lunch was served at exactly 1 pm.
Don’t let prior negative experiences affect your expectations of this holiday. By mentally preparing for a positive experience, we can actually prevent the negative from occurring. Instead of letting history repeat itself, plan for a different response and you might be surprised how well the day goes.
Cease fire. Yes, every family has history and conflict. Christmas is not the time to play the blame game. Set aside your differences, even if it just for the day. Be grateful for this time, remembering we are all blessed beyond measure.
Laugh, smile, maybe even shed some happy tears. Do whatever you must to be a peacemaker this holiday season and create a new Christmas tradition in which you put aside your differences. You may even be surprised to see the goodwill carry over into the New Year.Tweet