There are pictures of the kids. There are my clothes. There is my bathroom. It’s a big bathroom.
These were comments from my grandmother, Gigi, last time I went to visit her. The thing is, she said each of those comments (along with a few others) about five times in the 30 minutes I was there. She moved into a Dementia/Alzheimer’s facility about a month ago.
We have watched her mental functioning decline over the past few years and now my mom likes to tell her she is staying at the spa.
Our family is going through a time of learning about her disease, as well as learning about the importance of being a caregiver and support system.
Caring for a loved one – an aging parent, a family member who is sick or just a 2 year old child – can be difficult. It takes time, strength, patience, love and communication. By devoting time and energy to a loved one, your own health might take a backseat.
It is easy to put a loved one’s needs ahead of your own, but we have to remember to care for ourselves, too.
Do you find it hard to ask for help? Or feel you should be able to do it on your own? These are common feelings among caregivers, but it is okay to lean on others for support.
When you need help, ask for help in specific ways.
Take time for yourself. It is important to maintain what makes you… you!
These are just a few ideas for caregivers that can remind us all we are only human and it is okay to reach out to others for help and support.
During this time, Gigi will have good days and bad days and we know that. But, it is important to remember to still laugh and enjoy time together as a family, and most importantly to be there for each other.
I like to joke with my mom and remind her she will be checked in to the “spa” next!Tweet